I have been dating my boyfriend for about seven months now and when we first met he told me he played WoW from time to time. I honestly had no idea what WoW was since I'm not a gamer myself. At first I didn't think much of it, until about two months after we started dating when he quit his job and his life pretty much became the game. He would tell me not to come over because he had a raid or that he "had plans with friends" which meant staying home and playing the game as well. This lasted for about two months of non-stop playing, where he would go to bed at 8am and sleep till about 2pm maybe later if it was a Tuesday and the server reset. After awhile I pretty much had enough and started to get really upset, we would end up fighting because I would come over and all he would want to do was play WoW or pick a fight with me so that he wouldn't feel guilty about playing the game.
After a couple months he realized the amount of time he had logged on the game, it was almost two full week and was averaging over 10 hours a day. He decided to "quit" the game and the agreement was that I would get him a PS3 for his birthday since he said that the system allows him to pause games and that it's not nearly as addictive, so I bought him the PS3 that he wanted and for the next three months things were great. He would play the system from time to time but true to his word would pause the game and didn't spend nearly as much time on the system as he did playing WoW. On top of that he was working full time again and had a pretty normal sleep routine which was great because I work full time and get up at 6am Monday to Friday for work.
About two months agao that changed again, he has not touched the PS3 I bought him and instead decided to reinstall WoW on his computer. He has quit yet another job and is back to devoting about 10 hours a day to the game. This time he's even started his own guild and uses that as an excuse for having to spend so much time on there since he has to get members to join his guild. He picks fights with me to legitimate his desire to play the game and than tells me that I'm guilt tripping him if I ever bring up how much he plays. He'll get angry at me and pretty much tell me that we aren't talking about it. Since he started playing again all I hear is how he's happy with me but needs his own space as well which I understand I like my space as well but I just find it's gone to the extreme.
We'll go out and watch a movie or go to dinner and the first thing he wants to do when we get home is go on WoW, it could be 2am and that's all he's thinking about. We could be laying in bed after having a great night and his mind will be on the game and first thing he does in the morning is turn on his computer and check WoW. He'll tell me that all he needs is 15 minutes to get his dailies done and 15 minutes turns to 2 or 3 hours. If I mention how long it's been I'm being a jerk according to him and he'll pick a fight so that I won't say anything and he'll stay on longer.
The truth is I really do love him and I love the person he is when he's not addicted to the game. I've tried to ask him if he thinks he's addicted or if he think he plays too much and he just gets very defensive. He states that since I don't see him everyday that it's none of my business what he does on the days when I'm not there. He constantly talks about wanting to buy a house and get out of debt, but that's next to near impossible when you can't keep a single job. I make a fairly decent income and have a great job and he just keeps pressuring me to find jobs that pay even better so that we can be more comfortable and can afford to buy a house sooner meanwhile he isn't even holding down a job. I don't want to just give up on him because that's pretty much what he's come to expect from the people in his life but I really don't know what to do at this point. Everytime I try to talk about WoW I get yelled at or the silent treatment and I'm really not sure how much more I can take. We talk about a family and a future but the reality is I can't imagine what it would be like to have kids with him, I would feel like a single parent. As it is I'm the one who cooks, cleans, takes out the garbage, does all the laundry etc and I'm sure in someways I'm enabling this by doing all those things for him. I just really need some advice about how to talk to him about WoW everytime I bring it up it turns into a huge fight, I tried again today and got told we aren't talking about it. I tried to explain that it would be no different than me going to the casino everyday for 10 hours a day I would be addicted to gambling. To any of the former addicts out there, did anyone try to talk to you about it and how did you handle it? Is there a good way to bring up the topic without it turning into a fight?
I started with the trial, intending never to buy the game. Next thing you know I have a level 20 Tauren Shaman and bought a copy of WoW. I paid 2 months gametime, reached lv60, bought Burning Crusade then went 60 - lv70 in 1 week. I originally tried to buy BC expansion online, but the payment failed and my main character was locked out of the game for a week of time that i had paid for until i bought the boxed version. I complained. Blizzard ignored me for about a week and offered no explanation or my game time back. By this time i was completely under the spell. Spending probably 16 hours a day playing, and ignoring my college work completely. I installed WotLK expansion demo and reached lv74. with the trial turning off after 2 days of demo. Account frozen. Any WOW addict will understand how angry i was about that. You're supposed to get 10 GODDAMN DAYS ON THE STUPID TRIAL AAAARRRGH. I calmed myself down and calmly wrote an email to Blizzard support explaining that my trial had ran out early and I want to use the trial before I buy, as I did with Burning Crusade and with the original game.
1 week later, still no reply. I was extremely annoyed, I had been playing a free trial account new character to keep me going. I wrote another email, as I didn't even know if the last one had been ignored. This really is 50 times more frustrating for a wow addict than anyone else. When I contacted them as a new player they answered straight away and were really helpful. Contact them as a lv 75, i guess they know your addicted and they can just ignore you because they know you will have to renew your account payments.
This was what helped me to quit. I realized the anger I felt at Blizzard's non-existent customer service and thought about the money and time i had wasted.
Original game=£10, BC expansion=£15, 2 months subscription= £18.
To get my game working again without waiting for blizzard I would HAVE to buy both a 1 month subscription at £9 and a copy of WOTLK expansion at £20. So they want £29 minimum before i can play again. That made everything clear to me: Blizzard do not give 2craps about any individual gamer.
I'm am so very glad that they took nearly a whole month to reply, not answering my questions or offering any information relevent to the email i sent. Something like: 'Thank u for your email, your paid account period has expired'. no mention of the free trial. no mention of the fact that if i Paid the subs my main still wouldnt work because my character had started the WOTLK trial therefore i would need to buy the expansion to play that character again.
I understood i had a problem, and the only solution was to use this anger against the game: they treat me like crap, i refuse to pay, I don't need that game.
From here it was easy, every time i get tempted to play, I just think of my anger at that email after waiting nearly a month, they didn't even bother to address what I emailed about. Some people may think its petty to leave over a few days of free trial time, but the fact that they decide not to let me use the trial because I'll have to pay sooner really gave me the energy to say no-more. I hear things like "But just imagine how many people they have to deal with." My reply is " Just imagine how much money we are paying them to do that"
I haven't played for about 8 months now and am still at college, i now see my 73-74 dual-spec Tauren Shaman + own guild and 2 tabs for what it is: a complete waste of time and money. He is still there in Terrokaar realm never to be played again. I owe a guy 500g in that realm, I was busy slaving to get it back for him when I left. I hope he understands.
(previously ayhuasca - terrokaar realm)
The only thing I've ever been addicted to was a strong cup of coffee on a cold day. I started playing wow about one year ago but within that one year, my whole life ended up teetering on the edge of the "you're life is so fucked" pit. In my senior year, I lost membership in honor roll because of my failing grades. But i lost more than that. The once broad selection of scholarships and insurance cost cuts also went down the drains. I became very dependent on others and gained a dangerous passive-aggressive attitude.
The day i knew I had really fucked up was the day I realized how much i had manipulated others to feed my addictions. WoW had taken up my whole weekend and I had neglected to complete a major essay due the next day. My parents wouldn't let me on the computers at 1:00 am in the morning to fix my mistakes. So I ran away from home to retaliate. I left cruel texts for my family saying how I might be willing to come home in return to finish my papers. They looked for me for hours. When they found me wandering the streets, I got home and they let me finish.
No one trused me after that stunt and they still don't to this day. It's now clear to me why they shouldn't. It was my fault for not having the discipline to stop playing and finish the major assignment. And I had manipulated my way through every similar situation caused by my addiction that I didn't even notice how distant my family had become towards me.
And for those of you who may argue you can play casually, you must have a GODLY sense of discipline. We know it's bullshit. Stop being blinded by your false excuses and go drink some coffee...
Hello i have ben addicted to wow for 3-4 years at some points it have ben really bad raiding every single day and so on i was a hardcore gamer in the best guild on alakir and so on….. you might find this funny but i quit wow by duing 3 things. i tought of my self 2 years back and asked my self what have i acomplished … and i realised it was all a bunch of pixels… funny i dident see this before..
Anyway i started with going out with my friends in the weekends and so on and now i sold my char 4 months ago and its all good (:
Anyway on the downside i smoke weed every second day now…. dident do that when i played wow (: but oh well aslong as its only weed (:
If you want to quit think back and think ... how much have i acomplished the last 2-3 years or how long you have ben playing wow... Noting just a bunch of pixels .. and wow is a game where the chase for the Relentless glad sword or W/E is much more fun then when you get the item .... also think do you have any memories of having fun in the game ? either you have 2-3 or you have abselutly noone....
Anyway get your self some friends or if you have some try spending time with them and most importent sell your account and trow out your CDs....
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